You are Aphrodite and Adonis as soft flesh endlessly dances on fleshMaithuna is the Sanskrit word for union. Maithuna is yogic sexual union. It means act or instance of uniting two or more things into one state of being or a spiritual uniting in order to bring about concord.
among the brilliant flowers of Mount Olympus.
You are the roil and roll of the universe
in the never ending movement of creation.
You are mastodons in rut,
but you are also a point of light beyond
That point explodes into a million fragments
like fireworks in cosmic eternity.
The two of you are one
but even the one melts into nothingness.
Finally, beyond thought, concept or even feeling at all
is the indescribable ecstasy
as your personality dies.
There is only god-consciousness in all directions and in all time
which is out of time forever.
And this is Maithuna,
the meditation of sex.
love is a way of getting high,
perhaps ultimately the only way.
(The following instructions use heterosexual terminology; their content, though, is valid for the coming together of yin and yang however it manifests.)
We make love when we walk down the street
and smile at an old person;
we make love when we pet an animal.
In all of our daily inter-relating with people and with things,
we either create more love
or break down the love that exists.
Sexual intercourse is one form of making love.
Since a womanís body is slower to arousal than a manís (it is said to take at least eighteen minutes before real union can start to occur), it is necessary for the woman to influence the timing during intercourse if the partners are to become one with each other. This necessitates a real ego-loss from both partners since our society has taught the man to lead and the woman to be passive.
Even more damaging to a spiritually conscious sex life is the myth that orgasm is the summit of sexual experience. Maithuna may lead to experiences that make orgasm seem pallid by comparison, to the place of original creation where the earth emerges, cells multiply, life evolves in its many facets.
The feeling that orgasm is necessary can be an anchor grounding the personality. If the man does not come to climax, his emotional reaction may make it difficult for him to let go of his personality. On the other hand, if the woman is using fantasy or play acting to stimulate her body into rapid response, she loses touch with her partner. It isnít ďbadĒ to do any of that. But prolonged moments of such separation make the most ecstatic levels of love-making impossible to achieve.
Start slowly. Take a bath together. Throw rose petals in the bath water; light candles and incense so that the bathing place itself becomes an altar.
Look each other deep in the eyes until faces shift and thoughts fade. Tell each other how much you care. Now is the safe time to let go of anything held back, any untruths, fears, equivocations. Touch softly on the face, the shoulders, the hair. After your bath dry each other with soft towels and rub yourselves with sacred scents, perhaps with amber in pure oil.
Lie down in front of a fire or on a bed with soft blankets, and massage each other with long, slow movements of hands and arm. Push your hands slowly up each otherís backs about an inch on each side of the spine, from the sacroiliac, sacred space of energy, to the base of the neck where we gather such tension during the course of our daily wanderings. Breathe deeply. As you massage each other, be aware of the moment. Your world right now is that spot where fingers meet back. Concentrate on it. Where flesh touches flesh, you two are already coming together in a sacred space.
Maithuna is the art of vibrational rather than frictional sex. You may move in The Great Dance, but not until your bodies tell you that it is time. Until then sit quietly looking into each otherís eyes. Expect nothing. Make no demands. Just as waves of sound move together in resonance or discord, if the vibrations are not integrated and in harmony between you and your partner, true union is impossible to achieve yet.
Have a soft light; you donít want to make love in the dark but to enhance the senses, to dilate every avenue of sight, sound, smell with the wonder of each other. This is a meditation in concentration.
This is a visualization, not in the mind, but in the flesh. The Goddess or God is sitting before you as vulnerable and open to love as you are. It wears the face and form of your Loved One. Take as much time as you need to appreciate and truly feel each other as Deity. This gift and wonder is given those who truly yearn to find the cosmic love that irradiates everything on all levels of reality.
Keep your bodies quiet. There is no need for for anything further to happen, no goals. Just a very slow pulsation of energy. You are secure together.
Your vision becomes even more psychedelic.
You are the Tibetan deities locked in an embrace
that ends duality.
Eventually there is only the blooming of the genitals, boundary lines disappearing, no penis, no vagina.
There is only the fiery stillpoint of creation.
There may be the history of the world,
the slow slide of crystalline mud,
thunderstorms raging over desolate landscapes,
dinosaurs roaring in wild freedom.
Or nebulae wheeling through great heavens.
Or goddess stepping forth to caress you
with the blessing of fearlessness.
It may become the quietness before creation that builds strange planets of tender sweetness.
The movement begins; that one magnificent energy tightens and relaxes, feels itself, knows ecstasy.
Although you are merged, you are yourselves also, and the woman knows when to relax. The man knows when to pull back a moment.
This is a meditation of self-control that aims at losing self and finding it again, the cosmic game of hide and seek that we all play in our own ways.
It is possible to stop and start over again many times. You may want to even separate, feed each other, talk, and return yet once again to sexual union.
You can sit, melded in embrace, for many hours experiencing almost infinite levels of being.
Donít be disappointed if all
this does not happen the first time you try it. Be patient with yourself
and your lover. That very patience and surrender to what is will
help you to grow, understand and succeed. Familiarity with sexual self-control
may take time. Most yogic practices do.
In India, where reincarnation is real and the separate soul, which is the monad, learns and grows from one incarnation to the next, time is of little importance.
To experience the truly ecstatic states of Maithuna, time must be your servant.